What I Did This Summer

Does anyone remember having to write the requisite “What I Did This Summer” essay assignment upon returning to school in the fall?  It was a dreadful assignment on a number of levels.  Those students who didn’t like to write or couldn’t write well stumbled over the syntax and task of organizing what might indeed have been a great set of stories, while others more gifted in the art of gab crafted often tantalizing tales of adventures in far flung places that made the rest of the class feel bad about themselves because their summer travels paled in comparison. 

My favorite “What I Did This Summer” story of all time is, hands down, Olivia Saves the Circus,  a children’s book that I first encountered when my daughter was in pre-Kindergarten.  Olivia is the beloved and mischievous character created by Ian Falconer, who began his career as a cartoonist for The New Yorker.  

In Olivia Saves the Circus, the reader is treated to Olivia’s delightful summer fantasy in which Olivia literally saves the circus by stepping in as various performers find themselves benched by ear infections. 

The story opens as Olivia is finishing up a breakfast of pancakes.  After her morning ablutions, Olivia rides her scooter to school. Once in her classroom, Olivia is asked to stand up and “tell the class about her vacation. 

Olivia, we’re told, [of course] always blossoms in front of an audience.”  Bursting with confidence and mischief, Olivia then launches into a fabulous tale about the circus her mother took her to visit, a circus whose entire cast sadly and mysteriously had been stricken with ear infections!

Olivia is undeterred by this small problem because, as she explains, “Luckily, I know how to do everything.”  “Everything,” it turns out, includes becoming the Tattooed Lady (my personal favorite is the “Remember the Maine” tattoo she inks on with a magic marker), taming the lions, walking the tightrope, performing on the trapeze, jumping on the trampoline, entertaining the crowd with various clown activities, and putting on a show in the ring as “Madame Olivia and Her Trained Dogs,” who “weren’t,” she explains, “very trained. “  

Next comes funniest line of all and the one, I believe, on which this essay truly rests:  “Then one time my dad took me sailing.  The End.”

As skeptical as a specially appointed prosecutor, Olivia’s teacher asks, “Was that true?”

“Pretty true,” Olivia responds.

Again, the teacher asks, “All true?”

“Pretty all true,” says Olivia with a straight face.

“Are you sure, Olivia?” the teacher presses yet again.

“To the best of my recollection,” Olivia replies, the perfect politician.

How many times have you felt the skepticism Olivia’s teacher when you look at your friends’ fabulous vacation shots on Instagram and Facebook?  Do you ever feel a bit like Olivia’s teacher?  Do you wonder if you asked the same questions you would get a similar answer: “Pretty all true.”

Yet unlike Olivia’s fellow students who are, apparently familiar with and quite amused by Olivia’s propensity to tell tall, yet entertaining tales, our friends’ social media posts sometimes make us feel a bit “less than,” even if we DID have a fun, albeit less glamorous summer.

We may not have had the opportunity to hop on a jet and fly to Paris for the weekend, for example, or we may not have enough airplane mileage points or credit card points banked to whisk the family off to Hawaii for a week of sun, fun, and the requisite round of golf.

At the end of the day, it’s best to be thankful for the little things, like taking a sailboat ride with your child or spending the weekend at Galveston Island– about an hour’s drive from Houston, where I live, or even enjoying a Staycation at home alongside the pool in your own backyard.

Make your own memories and stories about the time you spend with your loved ones. Be like Olivia who, at the end of the book is caught jumping on her bed after lights out by her mother.  

“OLIVIA, I said ‘no jumping!  Who do you think you are, Queen of the Trampoline?”

After her mother closes the door, Olivia, now lying on her bed under her photograph of Eleanor Roosevelt, thinks to herself, “Maybe.”

Did I surf the waves off Ponto State Beachor snorkel with Leopard Sharks?  Did I canoe down the South Fork of the Guadalupe, carrying my canoe across the shallow areas and skillfully navigating the rapids? Did I meet and drink wine with a famous artist? Maybe!

Did I have a wonderful time traveling to new places, seeing new things, and trying new foods and wines with my family? Absolutely!

May we all have bit of Olivia in ourselves as the summer winds to a close.  

Reference:  Falconer, Ian. Olivia Saves the Circus. Atheneum: New York, 2001.

The Call of the Heart

“Don’t cry because it’s over; smile because it happened.” Dr. Seuss

My daughter left for camp yesterday. This will be her 11thsummer at Heart O’ the Hills Camp.  We did the usual last minute shopping for the requisite white shorts for Sundays, brushed the cobwebs off her trunk, aired it out on the back porch, and then filled it with everything she’d need for the next four weeks – at least everything she could think of at the time.  Inevitably, one of us forgets to pack something.  In the old days, that meant a letter home with a request and up to a week of waiting for said item to arrive via the US Mail.  Now, it’s only a quick few clicks on the keyboard to order the item from Amazon or a 20 minute drive into town for a Walmart run on her afternoon off.  

I’m always sad and happy at the same time when my daughter leaves for camp.  I have so many happy memories of Heart O’ the Hills.  It is a very special place.  I went every summer for five years:  1974 to 1979. I spent a few years away and then, like the boy in Shel Silverstein’s The Giving Tree, I returned to Heart O’ the Hills during a time in my life when I needed to be in a place that had always nurtured and welcomed me.  I had just completed the first year of the many it would take to earn my Ph.D.  I needed a break from the bleakness of the ivory tower.  I needed, as one song the campers still sing at camp, “to be still, to take it in a while, to feel the sunshine warm upon [my] face.”  I missed the feel of the cool, clear waters of the south fork of the Guadalupe River; the light of the fireflies that I have only seen one place in my entire life; the smell of the mesquite campfires at Opening Ceremony; the sound of Taps right before bed, and the camaraderie and fellowship of those blessed with the opportunity to spend time at that very special place on a quiet, two lane road “deep in the heart of Texas.”  

 I’m sad because, like every single Heart girl I have ever known, I’m “camp sick.” It’s hard to explain to someone who has never experienced it; it’s not a siren’s call, exactly – that word has such negative connotations – but it is a call.  Camp calls to me this time of year: “Come, come girl – come swim in my river and ride my horses.   Come climb up to the top of Pawnee Hill and sit around the fire with the other members of your tribe – your Heart sisters who know you like no one else ever will – and share the deepest secrets of your heart.  Lay on the Front Lawn and feel the grass under your limbs while you gaze up into the night sky at the millions of stars that you can no longer see under the glare of the big city lights at night.”

Then I remember the wise words of Dr. Seuss:  “Don’t cry because it’s over; smile because it happened.  And I tell myself to smile because “it” – the wonder of camp – continues to happen every summer, just as it is happening right now for my daughter and the girls she is teaching to love this place as much as we do.  

Paul Simon’s Homeward Bound-Farewell Concert Tour Was All That I Imagined and More

Paul Simon live at the Frank Erwin Center in Austin, TX on June 4, 2018.

It’s been a long time since I went to a concert – longer than I care to admit in a public forum, anyway.  My daughter, who is in college now, is a veritable expert on the Austin music scene and goes to shows on a regular basis, everything from small club venues to the annual ACL, Austin City Limits Music Festival.

You can imagine how thrilled and delighted  I was, then, when earlier in the spring she asked me if I wanted to go see Paul Simon in concert with her.

I was also a little surprised.  I have listened to and loved the music of Paul Simon for as long as  I can remember; in fact, I associate specific songs with specific events and periods of my life,  but my daughter has only recently started listening to his music.

After some negotiating with my husband over travel arrangements and ticket prices (“Why can’t you just see Paul Simon in concert in Houston on the Saturday before?  Why do you have to see him in Austin?” Answer:  “Better venue, better crowd.”) I managed to score two floor seats for the concert at the Frank Erwin Center in Austin on June 5th.  I have to say it was worth every penny and an experience with my daughter that I will never forget.

First of all, the venue was great.  The Frank L. Erwin Center, which doubles as a college basketball arena and a concert venue, is smaller than the Toyota Center here in Houston and much smaller than a stadium venue.

Second, the people were great.  Everyone we encountered – from the security staff to the beer vendors to the ushers – was nice and willing to help.  (That meant a lot to me as, at the time, I was still in a walking cast which covered my left leg from knee to toe.)  I had no trouble at all getting down to the lower floor to enter the area where the floor seats were placed,  finding my seats, and getting seated.

The crowd was a mixture of all ages, everyone from Millenials to Generation X’ers to Baby Boomers – all of whom were there to listen to good music and enjoy themselves.  I can’t remember a friendlier crowd. No one on our row complained about having to get up and make room for the Bride of Frankenstein.  In fact, we had a chance to chat with the people just to our right before the concert started, and I was amazed at how much we had in common!

Of course, these matters paled in comparison to the consumate professional performance of Mr. Simon and his assembled back up singers and musicians.

At 76, Paul Simon still has it.  Unlike some other singers his age whose voices have lost their vitality and lustre (shout out to you, Sir Paul McCartney), Simon sounds just as good as his earliest recordings, and he seems as one with his guitar.  He knows just how to read a room and work a crowd, too.  At one point early in the performance, he held his arms out wide and said, “Hello, friends!”  and every one of us sitting or standing in that room felt as if each of us was, truly, his friend.

My daughter and I reviewed Simon’s set list from previous locales on the tour to get an idea of what to expect and to see if our favorite songs would be performed.  We had no need to worry.  Simon did not disappoint.

Simon is often referred to as “America’s greatest living songwriter”; the only man who bests him in that category is Willie Nelson, but comparing the two is like comparing peaches and nectarines.  Both artists cover a wide variety of genres and write lyrics that can take the listener to the highest highs or the lowest lows.  Simon  chose  much-loved songs from throughout his canon, a selection that offered something for everybody.  He opened the concert with  “America,” and ended – quite appropriately – with “The Sound of Silence.”

Between songs, Simon chatted with the crowd, shared anecdotes, and explained the inspiration for some of his music.  He recalled, for instance, the circumstances that led to his writing “Rene and Georgette Magritte With Their Dog After the War.”   Simon explained that he had been waiting for Joan Baez at her apartment – they were to rehearse for a performance later that day – when he saw a coffee table book on Magritte.  Inside, he found an iconic black and white photo of Rene and Georgette Magritte walking their dog.  The photo inspired him to write a song about the pair.  While he was speaking, a reproduction of the black and white photo was displayed on the screen behind him.  Hearing the song in context made all the difference.  It truly struck a chord with me that night.

After Simon and his band sang the final encore, “Sound of Silence,” and left the stage, the facility lights came up and everyone realized it was time to go home.  I left not with a heavy heart, but instead a heart filled with joy.

Simon told us that he plans to retire from touring on the road – hence the concert tour title Homeward Bound – the Farewell Concert Tour.  He certainly deserves it.  Whether I get another chance to see him perform live or not, I can’t image it could ever top the memory of seeing him on stage that night and having that experience with my daughter by my side.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Many Costs of Cancer

For the past four years, my mother’s husband fought colon cancer, a devastating disease. He fought hard, too: two surgeries, 36 chemotherapy treatments, 2 radiation treatments, and more. The cancer started in his colon and moved to his liver before eventually spreading into his bones and brain.

So many Americans are diagnosed with and suffer from cancer’s devastation these days that it is almost a cliché’ to say that cancer is a terrible disease. But it bears repeating: cancer is a terrible disease.

Cancer takes its toll not only on the patient but also on the patient’s loved ones and caregivers. I so admire the doctors and nurses who helped my stepfather fight the good fight and the hospice care team that provided him and my mother with respite and kindness right up to the end.

It’s not only the disease that works to wear down the patient, though. It’s the treatment and the stress that accompanies it.

My stepfather is an Air Force veteran, so much of his care was provided by the Veterans Administration in Dallas, Texas. The facility was located nearly 90 minutes from his home. My mother and her husband would get up at 4:00am to drive to Dallas for his appointments. Once they arrived, after fighting the notoriously bad traffic, it could take up to an hour to find a parking place. They never knew how many hours it would take for each visit’s planned procedure. The VA provides housing for patients undergoing treatment, but like all of its other services, it is limited. My parents often had to stay in a local hotel at their own expense.

My parents were fortunate because they did not have to foot the entire bill for my stepfather’s treatment.   That’s not to say it was virtually free. My parents were still responsible for a percentage of the cost of my stepfather’s care. My mother has often stated that she doesn’t know how people without health insurance and savings can afford the treatment and associated costs of fighting cancer.

Saying the health care system in our country needs reform is another cliché . It’s like saying, “It’s hot in Houston in the summer.” I certainly do not have the answer to the problem, but surely someone or some group of people does. We are a nation of great thinkers and intellectual powerhouses. Americans designed and put in place the world’s most vibrant and long lasting democracy, put a man on the moon, men and women into long term orbit around the planet, invented the deadliest weapons of war, and created Superman and Wonder Woman. Surely someone has the vision and the intellect to offer some tangible solutions to the health care crisis in this country.

So much of the cost of treating a deadly disease could be eradicated with foresight. Providing every American a yearly physical, dental exam, eye exam, and nutritional counseling is a must. Women who become pregnant must have access to quality prenatal care. An ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure – another cliché, but an obvious truth.

Many types of cancer can be defeated when caught early. Early detection also lowers the cost of medical treatment as well as the cost of treating the family members and caregivers for the resulting illnesses brought on by the grief and stress of caring for a loved one with cancer. High blood pressure and higher than normal levels of stress related hormones are just two examples.

Cancer is, ultimately, costing all of us in some way, whether it is the physical toll it takes, the emotional toll it takes, or the financial toll it takes on the patients who have it, the people who care for the patient who has it, and everyone who pays for its treatment in any way, including his or her taxes.

 

 

Red Hot Mama: How My Uncle Got His Groove Back

In January last year, my aunt lost a three-year battle with pancreatic cancer. She fought hard, and her care team did its best to help her beat this terrible disease, but she finally succumbed.

My uncle, my mother’s brother, was devastated. He and his wife would have celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary last July. He found himself at loose ends, complaining that the house was “too quiet” and “empty” without her.

He did, however, take the time, finally, to take care of his own health. First, he had to undergo a much overdue colonoscopy to ensure that the stomach cancer he survived several years ago had not come back. Then he had surgery to repair a torn rotator cuff.

Designated driver

As my uncle had to be sedated for both procedures, he knew he wouldn’t be able to or allowed to drive himself home.  Since I work from home and am no longer responsible for carpool and day care drop offs and pick ups, he asked me if I could drive him home after each procedure.  When I asked him how he planned on getting to each appointment, he assured me that he could just take Uber.   That seemed reasonable to me, and I agreed to be his designated driver.

The first procedure, a colonoscopy, was very straightforward. The doctor found no evidence of cancer. In fact, by the time my uncle walked out of the recovery area, he was feeling so good that we had to stop at Nielsen’s Deli, located just up the street from the outpatient surgery center, to pick him up a roast beef sandwich and a Coke, as he had not eaten after midnight the previous evening.

His second procedure, surgery to repair a torn rotary cuff in the left shoulder, was a different story altogether.  As it would be an especially extensive and painful surgery, I knew my uncle would be on pain medication for at least a few days and, therefore, would need needed someone to stay with him for a few days until he was off the pain medication and could drive and take care of himself.  I agreed to be both designated driver and temporary caregiver.

Let’s do lunch!

Three days after the surgery, my uncle was feeling pretty good, so  I asked him if he wanted to get out of the house and grab some lunch. He said yes, so off we went.

My uncle was craving Tex-Mex and suggested a place near his home. On the way, I realized that one of my favorite places, Molina’s Cantina, was closer, so that’s where we went. It turned out to be a great choice, but not for the reason you might suspect. My uncle ended up with more than lunch – he also bought a car!

When we arrived at Molina’s, I parked my SUV and walked around to the passenger side to help my uncle out of his seat. It was then that I noticed a mint condition vintage red Triumph TR4 convertible across the lot. (I love sports cars; in fact, when my daughter was in middle school, I drove a 2005 red BMW Z-4 coupe, which I still miss very much. But that’s another story.)

The Triumph’s top was down, showcasing its rich black leather interior. It had been washed recently, and its paint shone in the sunlight. I also noticed that the front license plate had been replaced with a vanity plate for The Citadel.

Love at first sight

“Look at that beautiful car!” I said to my uncle.

My uncle turned, looked at the car, and said, “That’s the exact same car your father was driving the night he asked your mother to marry him.”

“Really? How cool is that?” I exclaimed.

I had often heard the story of how my father had wrecked his sports car on the way to ask my mother to marry him. My father, an F-8 Crusader pilot, literally drove off a bridge that night, totaling the car as well as his knee. The small town where my grandparents lived did not have an ambulance, so the local funeral home sent its hearse to take my father to the hospital in nearby Corpus Christi. Doctors there discovered that he had shattered his kneecap. Apparently it was worth it, though, because my mother agreed to marry him! And, fortunately, the Marine Corps allowed him to continue to fly.

My uncle started back towards the entrance to the restaurant while I snapped some photos of the car with my iPhone (one is at the top of this post). Then I went on into the restaurant, where we were quickly seated. As it was late in the afternoon, the restaurant was empty except for the two of us. When the server came to take our drink order, I asked him to bring me a Diet Coke and to bring my uncle a margarita made with the bar’s best tequila.

“He’s had a rough time of it,” I told the server over my uncle’s objections. “He deserves it.”

The server smiled and left for the bar. My uncle and I perused the menu and snacked on chips and salsa while we waited for our drinks.

When the server returned, he explained that the bartender suggested that, rather than wasting fine tequila on a margarita, my uncle order a regular margarita and a separate shot of the bar’s best tequila. We agreed to that. Before the server left, my uncle asked if he could also have a glass of iced tea. Seriously. I have the photos.

The server quickly returned with our drinks and took our order.

He couldn’t take his eyes off her

While we waited for our lunch to arrive, my uncle sipped his tequila and stared over my shoulder through the restaurant’s plate glass windows at the little red sports car.  I made small talk, but he was too distracted by the vision of the  Triumph to really pay attention to me or his food when it arrived.

“You know what your problem is?” my uncle asked.

“I have several.  Which one are you referring to?” I replied jokingly.

“You don’t know how to hot wire a car.”

“That’s true,” I said.  “However, I’ve never really needed that skill in my line of work.”

“I wonder who that car belongs to?” My uncle pondered, still gazing longingly through the window at the object of his desire.

“We could ask the server,” I replied.

Seeming not to hear me, my uncle said, “I wonder if the owner would be interested in selling it to me?”

“Well, there’s only one way to find out,” I replied. “We need to find out who owns the car and then we can ask the owner about it.”

That got his attention.

When the server returned to check on us, I asked him if he knew whether or not the owner of the red convertible parked out front was a customer in the restaurant or its bar. The server didn’t know but agreed to ask the hostess and the bartender.

When he returned with the bill for our lunch, the server told us that no one knew who owned the car.

“Oh, well,” my uncle said, much like Eeyore in Winnie the Pooh. “I guess we’ll never know.”

I took that as a challenge.

I take matters into my own hands, literally

“I tell you what,” I replied. “I’ll write a note with my name, cell phone number, and email address and leave it on the windshield under one of the wipers. That way, if the owner is interested in selling, he or she can contact me. ”

My uncle thought it was a long shot, but I was determined.

I pulled out my credit card and placed it in the folder the server had provided with the tab. Then I rummaged through my purse for a piece of paper, finally tearing a deposit clip in half and scribbling a note on it with a pen.

“Stay put!” I told my uncle before walking outside to place the note on the car.

I carefully lifted one of the car’s windshield wipers and placed the note under it. I turned to walk back into the restaurant. I had taken only a few steps when I heard a man call out to me.

“Excuse me, ma’am.  Do you want to buy that car?” he asked.

I stopped dead in my tracks.  I turned to my right; the voice had come from a man seated with two friends at a table on the restaurant’s palm frond roofed patio bar.  He was waving at me to get my attention.

“I don’t, “ I replied, “but I know someone who might be interested. How much do you want for it?”

“Oh, it’s not my car. It’s his,” the man replied with a grin, pointing to one of his two companions at the table.

I walked over to the group; the men were the only people seated outside. This was not surprising, as it was about 3:30pm in the afternoon.

I introduced myself and then had a brief conversation with the car’s owner, a young handsome man with short blonde hair and blue eyes. He explained that the other two gentlemen were his business clients and asked if he could join me and my party in the restaurant once he cleared his bar tab. I agreed and hurried back inside to my uncle.

“What happened?” he asked.

“Well, I found the owner of the car. He is sitting outside on the patio with two of his clients. I told him you might be interested in buying his car.  He’ll be here in a minute to talk to you.”

My uncle shook his head in disbelief.

Sure enough, a few minutes later, the owner of the car walked over. He introduced himself to my uncle, pulled out a chair, and sat down at our table.

My uncle asked, “What model year is your Triumph?

“It’s a 1963 TR4A,” the owner replied.

“That’s what I thought,” my uncle said. “My niece’s father had the exact same car. He used to let me wash it for him. I was twelve and thought it was the greatest car ever. Sadly, my brother-in-law totaled the car one night on the way to ask my sister to marry him.”

The owner thought that was a great story.

My uncle added, “Sadly, he died a few months after they were married. He was a Marine fighter pilot. His plane crashed in bad weather just outside Barksdale AFB in Louisiana. I accompanied my sister to Arlington National Cemetery for the burial “

“That’s terrible,” the owner said.

“Yes, it was,” my uncle replied. “So, my niece here tells me that you are interested in selling your car.”

“Yes,” the owner replied. “I have made the decision to sell it. I want to buy something larger and newer, like a Porsche.  I’ve been pulled over twice recently by the Houston Police Department while driving with my two young children in the back seat.  The police consider it is unsafe for me to do that.”

“How much do you want for it?” my uncle inquired.

The owner provided an asking price, adding that the car had been completely refurbished. In fact, he had just recently replaced all of the leather upholstery and interior trim.

My uncle pondered the price for a moment and then named a counter offer.

The owner thought about it before explaining that the price he had named was pretty firm; a member of the Houston Triumph Club had made him an offer just a few days before we met.

“I would really like to sell you the car, however,” he continued, “because I think you will take good care of it and love it as much as I do. Maybe we can work something out.”

It was my turn to interject.

“I noticed The Citadel vanity plate on the front of your car, and I see you are wearing a Citadel ring,” I said. “Back in 1995 while attending an NEH Summer Institute at the University of Montana, I met someone who taught Military History at The Citadel. I can’t recall his last name, but we all knew him as ‘Mel B.’ Did you know a professor by that name when you attended?”

“Yes! I do remember him,” the owner replied, adding, “It’s a small world!”

We chatted a little while longer before the owner handed my uncle a business card with his contact information.

“I’ll give you a call in a day or two,” my uncle said, “and we can set up a time for my mechanic to check out the engine, etc.”

“Sounds good to me,” the owner said before shaking each of our hands and getting up from the table.

Once the man had left the restaurant, my uncle turned to me and said, “Your aunt would really want me to have that car.”

“Oh, I agree,” I replied. “I think it would be a great way for you to get out and meet people, too, since he said the Houston Triumph Club holds regular breakfast meetings.”

We talked some more about personal financial issues. I won’t recount any more of the conversation out of respect for my uncle’s privacy; suffice it to say that my uncle could afford it.

I walked my uncle back to my car and got him settled before taking him back to his house. I packed up my things and returned home, but not before insisting that my uncle call me any time, day or night, if he needed help.

Red Hot Mama 

A few days later, my uncle called to let me know that he had bought the car.

“I’m so happy for you!” I exclaimed. “Do you have it at the house now?”

“Yes,” he replied. “The mechanic checked out the car.  It needed a minor repair, so it took a few days to complete the transaction. I drove up to the owner’s house in north Houston with Bruno (my uncle’s 8 year old black Labrador Retriever) and took him for a quick ride around the block before gave the owner a check and had the car loaded onto the tow truck for transport to my house.”

“Well, I’m looking forward to going for a ride myself,” I said.

“Just let me know when you’re available,” my uncle replied.

“Did you give it a name yet?” I asked.

“Yes – Red Hot Mama,” he said.

“I like it!” I replied. “Again, I’m so happy that I took you to lunch that day and helped connect you with the owner.”

I was just delighted. I could hear the difference in my uncle’s voice. He sounded better than he had in months.

My uncle got his groove back

Buying that car marked a turning point for my uncle. He soon met a lovely woman who had lost her husband to cancer seven years earlier; they have been dating for over a year now. My uncle regularly posts photos of the good times he has enjoyed with Red Hot Mama, too:  pictures of Bruno “riding shotgun,” the grandchildren’s first ride to the snow cone stand a few blocks from his home, his first breakfast with the Houston Triumph Club, and his first road trip with his newfound friends.

Red Hot Mama definitely helped my uncle get his groove back, but he won’t meet me for lunch anymore because he says it cost him too much money the last time, even though I picked up the tab for lunch.   Sooner or later, we’ll get around to that ride.  I’m looking forward to it!

 

It Was a Dark and Stormy Night

It was a dark and stormy night.

My husband, my daughter, and I were spending our last night in Nashville, the last leg of a trip to the Smokies and to my husband’s hometown of Knoxville. After reading about local restaurants and hot spots in a publication provided in our room at the Hermitage, I decided we should have supper at the renowned Loveless Café. It sounded a lot like an Austin favorite of mine, Threadgills, and I was in the mood for comfort food.

My husband was a bit skeptical; he had never heard of Loveless Café and wasn’t crazy about making the 37-39 minute drive in the dark to get there. Plus, it was late; he and our daughter had spent the day at the Country Music Hall of Fame, and he thought it would be best just to try a restaurant within walking distance of the hotel. According to the article I had read, Loveless Café was a pretty amazing place, so I persevered. In the end, he agreed and off we went.

It had started to rain by the time we got downstairs and picked up our rental from the valet, but we weren’t especially worried about the weather at that point. In fact, when I saw a cigar store in a strip center on the way, I insisted we stop and that my husband go in and see about a getting a good stogie, which he did. We figured we had plenty of time to get to the restaurant.

It wasn’t until we left the bright lights of the city and the lightning intensified that my husband started to question whether or not the food at “this place” was worth the drive. The tires on our rental, we realized, were in dire need of replacement, and the lightweight Nissan Rogue was proving difficult to keep on the road, much less in a designated lane.

“This place better be really good,” my husband grumbled, his fingers tightly wrapped around the steering wheel.

“I’m sure it will be,” I said, “and I know that you will get us there safe and sound.”

“Maybe it will even be open by the time we get there,” he replied with an edge of sarcasm in his voice.

Flashback to scenes from Psycho

We drove on through the storm; finally, we saw the restaurant’s 1950s era blue sign, with the words picked out in pink and green neon. With the exception of the color of the neon, it looked exactly like the Bates Motel sign from Psycho.

The resemblance did not end there. The pictures on the restaurant’s home page do not convey the creepiness of the place on a stormy night. Loveless Café was once a motel with a layout similar to the Bates Motel and other travel court motels of the era.

The restaurant sits where the original office would have been, and the original motel rooms flank the restaurant in adjacent lines on the left and right. That night, their dark windows looked forbidding. Just to reassure myself that Loveless Café had no skeletons in its closet, I looked up and to the left for a rundown two story Victorian mansion.

I didn’t see anything looming in the distance, but I still felt much like Janet Leigh as she checked in the Bates Motel as I got out of the car with my daughter and entered the restaurant while my husband parked the car.

Warm, welcoming interior, cheerful and friendly staff

My fears were further allayed by the cheerful, brightly lit lobby of the restaurant with its green wood plank walls covered in framed photographs, polished wood floors, and old fashioned hostess stand. It provided a welcome respite from the stormy night outside. We walked up to the old fashioned hostess stand, which included a display of Loveless Café items for sale, and were greeted by a friendly young woman who asked for the number of people in our party before picking up three menus and leading us into the main dining area.

My daughter and I took our places at a table for four covered in a red and white checked oilcloth and looked around at the paintings and framed photos on the walls. I had told the hostess that my husband wouldn’t be hard to miss, since he is 6’7” and, sure enough, a few minutes later, she escorted him with a smile to our table.

got biscuits?

While we perused the supper menu, our server brought us a plate of warm biscuits, plenty of butter, homemade preserves, and honey before taking our drink orders: iced tea for me, sweet tea for my husband, and a Coke for our daughter who refuses to drink iced tea in any form.

After we laughed at the salad options listed on the menu (after all, who goes to a place like Loveless Café to eat healthy?) my husband opted for the Loveless Fried Chicken, mashed potatoes, and fried okra; I ordered the Country Fried Steak with cream gravy, mashed potatoes, and green beans. Our daughter, ever the picky eater, ordered her two mainstays: chicken fingers and macaroni and cheese.

Our supper soon arrived piping hot; the portions were more than generous. This was not our hometown mainstay, the Luby’s LuAnn Plate: one piece of chicken (white or dark), two sides, and a roll. No – I was faced with a chicken fried steak twice the span of my hand and fingers. My husband was served HALF a chicken. And the food was delicious.

A word about the importance of iced tea

 The iced tea was fresh and perfectly brewed, too. If you didn’t grow up in the south, you may not appreciate the value of a freshly brewed glass of iced tea. Few things in life are more refreshing on a hot day, whether you have just come in from mowing the yard or are enjoying dinner or supper with family and friends.

I learned that all glasses of iced tea are not created equal after living in Minnesota for four years. All too often, I would order iced tea only to be served a cloudy dark tea colored liquid that tasted god-awful. You couldn’t get Coca Cola, either. If you ordered a Coke, you were often told, “We only serve Pepsi.” For some reason, the natives preferred the syrupy, too sweet alternative. Plus, people looked at you funny if you asked for a Coke instead of a “soda” or a “pop.”

Dessert? Yes, please!

 By the time we finished our meal, it was near closing time, so we ordered dessert to go. Loveless Café offers diners an array of southern favorites: Chess Pie, Chocolate Chess Pie, Fudge Pie, Coconut Pie, Pecan Pie, and Banana Pudding (listed as “Puddin’” on the menu). I opted for Banana Puddin’ and my husband chose his favorite, Coconut Pie, after confirming it was Coconut Cream Pie, not Coconut Meringue Pie.

When we left the restaurant, the rain had stopped, so we had a much quicker and less harrowing drive back to our hotel, where we polished off the desserts – having no in-room refrigerator, we were compelled to eat them lest they spoil.

The next day, we flew back to Houston, but not before I bought myself a hot pink “got biscuits?” t-shirt from the hotel gift shop. I love my Loveless Café t-shirt; it’s now eight years old and going strong. Every time I wear it, people always ask me where I got it.

If you are ever in Nashville, take my advice and head on out to Loveless Café. You’ll be glad you did!

Chicken Sundays

I always associate Sunday with two things: church services and fried chicken. When I was growing up, I spent one month each summer at Heart O’ the Hills Camp for Girls in the Texas Hill Country. On Sundays, we were allowed to wear pajamas, robes, and slippers to breakfast in the dining hall, where waffles, strawberries, whipped cream, and an assortment of fruits and cereals awaited our arrival.

After breakfast, everyone had to change into her “Sunday Whites” – white t-shirt, white shorts, white socks, white tennis shoes. Sunday church services were held on the waterfront along the Guadalupe River.* Sunday dinner was always fried chicken, mashed potatoes, a vegetable, rolls, cream gravy and milk or iced tea. Sunday supper, usually sandwiches and fruit, was always served outdoors on the verdant grass of the Front Lawn.

Fried chicken has always been a Sunday staple in my family, too. It was a tradition in my mother’s family to gather on Sundays at her grandparents’ big house on Avondale in Houston’s Montrose neighborhood and sit down to a home cooked Sunday dinner of fried chicken, mashed potatoes, green beans, biscuits, cream gravy, and pie. All of the Barbour children and grandchildren would sit down at the massive mahogany dining room table set with fine china, crystal, and silver flatware.

Now neither my mother nor I can fry chicken to save our lives – believe me, we’ve both tried many times over the years, so fried chicken in my house is always take-out from one of the local franchises.

Today, however, I enjoyed a special treat. My husband drove to Sanger, Texas to Babe’s Chicken Dinner House and brought home fried chicken and all the sides to my mother’s house for Sunday dinner.

Babe’s Chicken Dinner House is a Texas legend. I’ve heard about Babe’s amazing fried chicken for years, as my in-laws live in the DFW area, but for one reason or another, I had never eaten Babe’s chicken until today. Let me tell you: it is the best fried chicken I’ve ever eaten in Texas. The only place with better fried chicken is Loveless Café in Nashville, Tennessee. Trust me – I’ll address the wonders of Loveless Café in another post. For now, though, I am going to stick to sharing with you the chicken fried goodness that can be found at Babe’s Chicken Dinner House.

The photo I have posted above does not do justice to the food. It cannot convey the perfect crunch of the skin and the moist, tender meat underneath. It cannot convey the perfectly seasoned taste of the fresh green beans or the “just right” ratio of corn to cream sauce. I will never be able to eat green bean casserole made with canned green beans or creamed corn from a can ever again. The food is just that good.

The buttermilk biscuits and gravy are great, too. These are two other southern staples that you have to learn how to cook at an early age, and neither is easy to master. I gave up on making homemade biscuits long ago; mine wouldn’t rise correctly, or they were too dry, or they didn’t cook all the way through. I do make pretty good “drop biscuits” using Bisquick, but they just aren’t the same. As a result, my poor husband has made do with Pillsbury’s Grands!™ Southern Style Frozen Biscuits for most of our marriage.

People who know us well also know that my husband always swore when he was single that he would only marry me if I could sing American Pie all the way through from start to finish (it’s 8 ½ minutes long) and make decent cream gravy from scratch. I had no trouble meeting the first requirement; as I said in an earlier post, I’ve loved that song since I was 8 years old. Making decent cream gravy is something different altogether.

Part of the problem with making cream gravy is that you need fresh bacon grease to make a roux. The grease has to be just the right temperature before you add the flour. You have to add just a little bit of flour at a time and stir the mixture continuously over low heat. Then you add warm milk to the roux, again stirring continuously to ensure that your gravy is free of lumps – lumpy cream gravy tastes just awful. Finally, you have to add just the right amount of salt and pepper; too much of either ruins the mixture and you have to start the process all over again.

Fortunately, my mother is a very patient person and a good cook. She taught me how to make cream gravy, so I met the second requirement.   I have never achieved the high standards of my husband’s grandmother’s cooking, but he tells me that mine is “good enough.” He eats plenty of it, so I know he’s telling me the truth.

Babe’s Chicken Dinner House also serves southern dessert staples like banana pudding, chocolate meringue pie, coconut meringue pie, lemon meringue pie, and pineapple upside down cake.  We didn’t get dessert from Babe’s today, so I can’t comment on whether or not the restaurant’s versions of these items are really tasty or not.

My mother and I make our own chocolate meringue pie, lemon meringue pie, and butterscotch meringue pie using my maternal grandmother’s recipes. Butterscotch is my favorite, but they are all delicious. I make my own pineapple upside down cake, too. I always baked one for my mother-in-law when she would come to visit; that was her favorite dessert. I use a friend’s recipe to make my own banana pudding. So, as you can see, my mother and I have the dessert front covered!

In today’s fast paced world with family scattered across the country, it’s nice to be able to sit down for Sunday dinner at the table and share family favorites, even if you don’t have the time or, in my case, ability to make them yourself. I know today is a day that I will look back upon fondly, and I’ll always remember eating Babe’s chicken in my mother’s house while my Labrador Retriever gazed longingly at me from her spot just next to my chair.

 *These traditions continue today at Heart O’ the Hills.